Asetians as parents...?

The AB goes into quite some detail about the varying characteristics and personal traits between the lineages, but doesnt mention much about anything where parenting is concerned.

I would assume that the chances of an Asetian becoming a parent through their incarnations, is quite high.

Now, it states that an Asetians indifference to humans, even those closest to them on a biological level - mothers, fathers, etc - can increase especially after the awakening...would this not cause a conflict of interest in an Asetian, with regards to how they feel about their children?

It's a bit of a generalised thought, since most would agree that the love one feels for their children is unbreakable and unquestionable, but this would, to a degree, contradict some of what is stated in the AB....

I'd welcome your thoughts and opinions just out of interest on this....

I have also thought about this for a while now.

From what I've heard Asetians don't like to have children (especially the Guardian lineage) and Asetians don't incarnate as another Asetian's parent. Whether this is true for every single Asetian I do not know.

And yes, when an Asetian is becoming more awakened they draw away from their biological family, even when they were very bonded to them before their awakening started.

I'm looking forward to other thoughts on this other than mine.

From what I know, Asetians do not usually have children. Of course this does not apply to every Asetian and I am sure it is not a rule, but especially among Elders it is what happens. But the Elders are a small ancient group, and there are many Asetians that are not Elders. As Helliana said, this is even more obvious in the Guardian lineage.

Talibah, you said that the chances of an Asetian becoming a parent throughout his incarnations is quite high. But is it? If an Asetian bears a child, that child will be mortal, and die. So how can that bond even be so deep? And no, parenting is no excuse to transform a child with the Dark Kiss, it goes far deeper than just to bring a kid to the world and not an option alone to the Asetian to perform.

You also said that the love one feels for their children is unbreakable and unquestionable, and that is a generalized thought. For humans, maybe. Asetians in no way have "generalized thoughts". And as far as Asetians go, they don't even apply the word Love to that. Especially if you tell that to a Guardian, he or she will never agree with it, since they only feel for their Loved One and the immortal Family that they represent.

Victor, thank you for your reply...
With reference to transforming a child...The thought had not even crossed my mind.

I fully agree with what you and Helliana have said. I had heard similar things, but thought it an interesting subject nevertheless. And when I said 'generalized thought' I indeed was referring to human thought.

You are quite right also in stating that if an Asetian bears a child, that child will be mortal, and die...but surly not every Asetian in a sexual relationship is always so careful? Especially the less aware, the unawakened? Those yet to evolve sufficiently to implement conscious choice in the next incarnation?

I also agree with the statements surrounding the concept of love...but again, is not such indifference more typical and prounounced in those after the awakening ??
The Guardians have been mentioned, but what of...say, concubines, those less elitist and more sociable of the lineages?

Are all Asetians destined to be barren?

I agree with you, prior awakening things get more confusing, since the Asetian is not yet his true Self. So I would say that an unawakened vampire may act unexpected. All the mentioned indifference from the Asetians towards humans and biological families certainly develop more deeply after awakening. I even believe that most unawakened cannot understand the lack or feelings from the Asetians towards their biological families in this incarnation, and many people would surely criticize them for that, without understanding it.

You made a nice remark though, Concubines...
Being the less elitist of the three, then maybe having children is more common among their Lineage, just like they get along better with mortals and even sometimes forging bonds with their biological parents, in a way that can sometimes be seen as weakness by the more evolved Vampires or other Lineages.

Victor wrote:
You made a nice remark though, Concubines...
Being the less elitist of the three, then maybe having children is more common among their Lineage, just like they get along better with mortals and even sometimes forging bonds with their biological parents, in a way that can sometimes be seen as weakness by the more evolved Vampires or other Lineages.

I highly agree and understand this. Concubines are the most likely to have children more than Guardians or Viperines. Not every Concubine has a child though, just depends on the individual.

I also agree with the fact of an unawakened or not completly awakened vampires possibly having children.

Unbreakable and unquestionable feelings for the human family only applies to humans , asetian love does not apply to humans.

Being a parent is not more than an extra burden for an asetian, because the coldness and the different nature of his soul comes more into light when a child is implied generating many conflicts and problems , that's why parenting is not a pleasant state for an asetian .

I don't think that having children has any relevance between the lineages so as Concubines being more likely to have children but i agree that concubines maybe handle it better if they happen to have biological children.

Of course no asetian will ever mistreat his family or biological children but they will always feel mistreated because he can not give them what they need .

The Dark Kiss also has no connection with having biological children .

I am replying first and then reading through the others replies

I wish to remind that the AB is the consumer version of what is available from the AK. The understanding of parenting and loving from Asetians is not available to us. Though I can safely say that Asetians are loving, caring and parenting beings.

yes but there is love under will and no love under duty

To my understanding, Asetians can only feel Love for one person in their life, and certianly not their biological parents, or, children, if they had any. I also agree with some of the users here that mentioned Concubines, the less elitest of the three lineages, and I thought to myself that if they can keep the bond between them and their biological families, they certainly can hold quite a strong bond between them and their children, since I believe if anyone had a child, they could have a stronger bond between them and their child, than themselves and their biological family.

I also believe that it may just be possible for an Asetian to have a child before he or she experiences the awakening, although quite unlikely to my understanding.

Overall Asetians are not beings that see their life as a whole, with a child, as many human couples do. They are here, once again, to evolve, grow and find themselves... not to take care of a mortal that will die and be forgotten.

Aghrab

Hellen wrote:yes but there is love under will and no love under duty

I fully agree with you, Hellen.

You cannot just Love someone out of obligation and what people see as a duty. Love goes deeper than what the human eyes sees. What a mother may feel for her child, may be care, dedication and a pretty strong bond, yet it is not Love. At least not the Love we are speak of in here.

A'nen Sedjet wrote:Though I can safely say that Asetians are loving, caring and parenting beings.

They are indeed loving and caring as no human could ever be, towards the One that they choose to be that way to, however, if you say that they are parenting, I can somewhat see this between a Master and an Apprentice, which yes, is not quite the same "parenting" as what you meant. I say this because in my head I cannot see an Asetian being parenting, as a parent, to their child, so the only thing closest to that, to me, is a Master and an Apprentice, or a Dark Child.

I think that to understand this one must try to stop seeing it all through the eyes of a mortal. For a mortal their family is the one the biological parents, the children they might have later on in life. To an Asetian the family is other Asetians, whom they love, trust and have been with for many lifes. The only children they bond with is their dark child. I think that if an Asetian had a child itwould bring pain to the Asetian, because on one hand it would slow down their evolution and freedom and on the other having to see this mortal not be able to walk the path they are walking on, or understand them or feel loved by them.
If you live for ever why bond deeply with someone who will be gone in what seems a blink of an eye? It would seem to me painful and a waste of time to be bonding with people you will only lose in the short run. I think that for the immortals it is better to bond with others like them.

The Asetians do have a highly strong, unbreakable and intimate bond of parenting... however that bond simply is not biological.

The relationship, bond and link between an Asetian Elder, or Master, and his Dark Child, is beyond anything that most of us can comprehend and it endures forever, unlike any possible bond between mother/father and child.

So yes, the Asetians are great parents and also great children, but that is connected to the one that gave them immortal life. The one that Dark Kissed them. Because despite that, Asetians tend to be quite detached from their biological parents and not really good children at the eyes of mortals.

However, please keep in mind that all of this mostly aplies, in a mstronger way, to Elders. Non-Elders may be different, not as extreme and not as elitist as the first Asetians, who are the Core of the Family. I have came across many people in my path and research that had a very strong bond with their mothers or fathers and believed they felt an unbreakable love with them, but also had the belief they were Asetians. I should say that I am no one to point out who can or not be an Asetian, nor is my position to do so, but I highly doubt that any of those souls are what the Aset Ka consider an Elder soul. Can they be Asetians? Who knows... that is up to the Aset Ka to judge and for the Asetians to say. But an Elder with that mortal bond? Sorry, I don't buy it...

Maktub

Greetings.

I agree with Maktub. No Elder would be deeply bonded to biological parents. From my knowledge, the Elders are detached from their biological parents, and they inclusively don't deal with them very well, most of the times, due to most parents' sense of possession and authority. Asetian Elders don't accept authorities due to biological bonding. It simply doesn't make sense. Of course beings might get used to each other, and even live together (pretty, kind of) well, especially if the parents simply understand and disconnect. With Elders, that will save them a lot of hassle.

Best regards,
Karnath.

Greetings ,

i deeply agree , but i think Talibah's question was different .
Her question was if an Asetian can have children .
And how could be the relation with the children if they exist.
I already answered what I think about it , but I would like to know what the others think too

Thank you

Hellen